The judgment and critique of others has always been something I've struggled with. Although I've gotten better over the years, there is always that thought in the back of my mind "what will people think or say if I do x, y, or z?"
Unfortunately, I don't think I'm alone in this train of thought in society today. Too often we place so much emphasis on what others think of us, thereby allowing others to define our values, abilities, and, most importantly, our worth.
We are worth more than a 5 second, quick look-down and judgment from those who don't know us.
We are worth more than the number on the scale, which society tells us should be what defines us.
We are worth so much more than we ever imagine - sometimes, it just takes a change of mind and heart to fully see and appreciate this fact!
But, like with all things related to our health and change, it isn't easy to see our value and our worth, especially when we have the pressure from the outside trying to keep us from being our healthiest, happiest self.
However, that doesn't mean it's impossible!
Start small - tell yourself that you are worth of self-love and self-confidence. Literally tell yourself this while looking in a mirror. When you see yourself in a new light and how you truly are (beautiful, amazing, and worthy), you will start to reflect this self-confidence to others, and, in a sense, share the self-confidence and self-love!
And this also is true in the reverse: we cannot judge others for the same reasons that we do not like to be judged. We must also strive to find the value and worth in others, even those we may not necessarily get along with or even like. It doesn't mean we have to be best friends, but it also doesn't mean that we have to treat others with the same judgment we are trying to avoid.
Remember - your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.